Teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers, or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. (Titus 2:3-5)

“Dear Lydia” will be a Biblical version of the “Dear Abby” advice column. Women from around the world can send in their questions to “Dear Lydia” and receive advice from godly women who have spent many years learning to apply the scriptures to the issues that arise in our daily lives.

Certainly, going to God first and then the brothers and sisters around us is God’s plan for our lives. There are so many scriptures that teach us the way to live, and also many that teach us the importance of seeking advice.

Another upcoming feature of this column will be the sharing of letters to “all women disciples around the world.” The intent of this part of “Dear Lydia” is to glean from the experience of numerous elder’s wives and older women of faith among us. These sisters will share something they would most want to pass on to other sisters, from their years of walking with God in their lives through the mountains and valleys of life.

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Dear Lydia,

My husband never takes the lead in doing any spiritual activities with our children. So most of the time I go ahead and pray with the kids, lead the prayer at meals, and plan family devotionals. How can I get my husband to LEAD!

Dear Sister Wants-her-husband-to-Lead,

Do you ask your husband each time you assume the role of leadership if that is what he wants you to do? It sounds as if you assume he will not do it, so you usurp him. I would suggest that instead of taking over, say, “Honey, will you lead us in prayer?” “Honey, may we have a devotional tonight?” “How can I help?” The best way for you to encourage your husband to lead is to be a loyal, loving, encouraging follower!